A great and beloved teacher of mine while sharing his experience advised me:

“The first year of marriage is about killing yourself and learn to live with respect and love for many years ahead –

But what about social thinking and training, a girl needs a lot of things, travel, food, clothes, furniture, everything immediately, by that she (and her husband) measure the respect she gets and gives in return –

Secondly, after marriage, women become stiff, while it is very important to make her personality firm through self-grooming.”

By chance, a women came to the class next day. As conversation during class was not allowed but while saying goodbye, she said in a stunned manner while giving big prayers, “Stay calm, stay calm, even if your husband bothers you, be content with it.”

I was surprised and asked what kind of prayer is this? You could have prayed for us that if someone has a complaint about her husband, he bothers you, He should not do that either –

On this, the women replied with these ‘Golden Words’, “It is not possible to live with each other and not be tested by each other, so be grateful for the husband you have, the situation is not good, son! A man comes after seeing a lot outside, the competition for a simple woman at home is very tough, women should work hard on themselves (read, write, learn to talk, be clean and keep things so that their husbands are safe)”

Then she said in an emphatic manner, “Aunty used to say, if the husband is not at home, then put his slippers at the door of the house, he is very scary to others, Allah has given you a blessing, do not complain, protect him.”