The under mentioned article has great lesson for those who have great complaints about their wives.
As the ‘nikah khawan’ came and I started to divorce my wife, I was happy that now all the problems would be over. When he asked me, “Are you ready for this important and irreversible decision?” I responded immediately, “Yes, from core of my heart.”
While sitting silently, my wife was enduring everything and she felt very weak. She was accompanied by her family but looking so weak that she could not feel their presence. As I saw signs of defeat in her eyes, felt happy that I had taken my right and showed her that she had brought us to this situation.
Few minutes later, I divorced her. After return on the day, while lying on my bed, I felt that all the problems of the world had disappeared. I have become free and that day took meal to my capacity.
“Finally” I came to peace, prayed and thanked Allah. I went to my family and they were happy that I was free from it.
I started living my life freely again.
But all things changed within short time. I was in the grip of multifaceted problems. Was going through headaches and disagreements.
The things went against my expectations and everyone got busy with their own lives. At the end of every night, they would lock themselves in their rooms and I would be left alone, weak and lonely in my room.
Where did my family go?
My brother who always talked about my wife stopped paying attention to me. My mother who tried to show that she loves me more than my wife, also stopped giving me the same love and attention. She went back to her old self.
The people who used to provoke me to it had also stopped calling. When I fell ill on the night of Eid and had a fever, I called my brother, he did not recognize that I was sick from my voice, although my voice was not clear due to the fever. I remember once my wife called me one day while I was out and asked, “How are you?” She was worried for no reason. I was feeling weak at the time and I had a drip in the hospital without telling her.
Where is the peace they promised? Why is no one interested in my life like they were when I was with my wife?
If they had all been so distant from the beginning, there wouldn’t be so many problems between us.
When said that I wanted to go back to my wife, everyone tried to stop me. They brought up old issues, blamed her for her mistakes, said things about her that weren’t true and I believed them all. They interfered in very private matters, which they absolutely shouldn’t have done.
They interfered in the details of my life so much that it was not appropriate for them to be inside or even at the door.
I realized all this too late when I took a break in my life. When my wife moved away, I realized that she was trying her best not to let our house fall down and that I was letting her go.
She was hiding our private things and I was revealing everything to others.
When I tried to bring her back with regret, she flatly refused. She said, “I am at peace.” This is the phrase I should have said. I tried very hard, but every time she was stubborn, as if she was in a safe place and afraid to leave because she would never return.
She said bluntly, “I never felt my rights, not even the right to be your wife.” And in the end, I was the only loser. The problem was that I thought I was right and that the people around me were my well-wishers.
