The first wife and the first car are usually great source of gaining experience. Even, the first car is a Mazda 1979, it looks like a Pajero 2024. The steering wheel is held with both hands and the eyes are on the road in front. Then, as one becomes more experienced, the attention shifts from driving to the cars passing by. The steering also becomes subject to one hand. All the dents fall on the first car and when one gets used to driving, it comes out new.
Similarly, the first wife looks like a goddess. And for five to ten years, the eyes do not move away from her. All our stupidities, psychological and emotional follies are tolerated by the first wife and she coaches us, saves us and helps us stand on our feet financially. When we get used to having a wife, we think, is this also something worth having?
After having three or four children and 50 years of age pass in a flash. The children of those who get married at the age of 22 or 23 reach the level of their father and the wife becomes easygoing. This is the time to open her eyes. She considers her husband as the hen of the house while he is the cock of the neighbours. At the said time, when a woman is immersed in the worries of children, she becomes oblivious to herself. At the same time, the husband is struck by the second marriage. This attack occurs between the ages of 40 and 50 to the point of madness and is called “Over Forty Syndrome” – in which 90% of men plan and then for some reason or the other, they leave. About 99% of men think about second marriage, and the remaining 1% lie.
There is a Shahid Afridi hidden in every man who is desperate to get out in the last overs and hit suicidal sixes. The financial stability of the husband is in favor of the woman. The minus point is, while the children have already built a house and the children are close to graduation, the woman thinks that the destination is near, while the husband is busy putting another car in the front seat, the wife is watching the relationship of the children and the husband is looking for something for himself. The man who is taking the easy way out of the house, when he gets attention from outside, he also considers himself ‘Saif Ul Malook’. And in this cycle, nature plays its game and reminds us of itself, either a heart attack comes or a stroke. Again, the same man comes to his companion because young children always lack time for parents.
