An elderly woman who spent 50 years with her husband told the secret of her peaceful, happy and satisfied life.
When questioned that whether she was good at cooking, was beautiful or having many children was reason of her 50-year peaceful life, she woman replied:
“Control of a peaceful married life is completely in the hands of the woman by the grace of Allah. If a woman wants, she can make her home a paradise and if she wants, she can also make it the opposite, that is, hell.
She said that one should mention wealth in this regard. As there are many rich women leading miserable lives and their husbands keep running away from them.
The children can also be not declared reason for a happy married life. Many women who have dozens of children fail to win their husband’s love and even divorced.
On the other hand, many women have cooking expertise, they prepare different types of foods round the close but still they complain about maltreatment of their husbands.
She elderly woman about secret of her happy life further stated that when my husband is very angry, I resort to silence, but this silence also includes respect. I bow my head sadly.
On such occasions, some women become silent, but this involves an element of ridicule, which should be avoided, a wise man immediately realizes this.
When asked why don’t you leave the room on such occasions?
She replied that by doing so, the husband will feel that you are running away from him, that you don’t even want to listen to him.
On such occasions, one should remain silent and should not oppose anything he says until he calms down. She said that when the husband calms down to some extent, I say: Have you finished your talk?
Then I leave the room
Because the husband is tired of talking and after shouting, he needs some rest. I leave the room and get busy with my usual tasks.
To a question what do you do after that? Do you adopt the style of stopping communication? Do you not communicate for a week and a half?
She said: No! This bad habit should always be avoided, this is a double-edged sword, when you do not communicate with your husband for a week at a time when he needs to reconcile with you, he will get used to this situation and then this thing will increasingly take the form of a dangerous kind of hatred.
She further after such conflict, I go to my husband after two or three hours with a glass of juice or a cup of coffee and say in a loving way: Drink it. In fact, this is what the husband needs. Then I start talking to him in a normal way. He asks if I am angry with him?
I say: No. After that, he apologizes for his harsh words and starts talking beautifully.
The woman when questioned that do you believe what your husband says, informed that of course, I am a little clumsy, I have complete confidence in myself.
Regarding her self-respect, the elderly woman said that my self-respect is only when my husband is satisfied with me and our married life is calm. She said that there exists no such thing as self-respect between husband and wife. When a husband and wife are each other’s clothes, then what kind of self-respect is there?
